Humor Is In the Eye of the Beholder!

It’s good to have fun at work but you need to be careful with how fun and humor is defined. Horseplay is usually not recommended and often not allowed for good reason. Humor on the other hand is often allowed and even encouraged but it’s still good to be careful. It is useful to know that there are several types of humor that may, or may not, be appropriate in the workplace and when used inappropriately, can get you into hot water. When used appropriately, i.e., “Humor is in the eye of the beholder,” it can raise morale, build team spirit, and improve productivity!

Dr. Rod Martin, Department of Psychology, University of Western Ontario, and his fellow researchers have devised the Humor Styles Questionnaire that allows us to determine which of four styles of humor is being used more often in an organization. The four styles are Self-enhancing, Affiliative, Aggressive, and Self-defeating.

  • Self-enhancing humor is a type of mild humor used to enhance oneself.
  • Affiliative humor is used to enhance one’s relationships with others.
  • Aggressive humor is used to enhance the self at the expense of others.
  • Self-defeating humor is used to enhance relationships at the expense of oneself.

It’s fairly obvious that Self -enhancing and Affiliative humor can be more beneficial than Self-defeating and Aggressive humor. Most organizations have a combination of all four types of humor being displayed at various times and situations.

It’s always good to remember: Humor is in the eye of the beholder! If even one person thinks it’s not funny, it’s not funny. Most businesses don’t think about this, many don’t teach it to their employees, and many don’t consider how it impacts company culture, morale, and employee productivity.

If you are not sure how well your team is doing with humor, Give Us a Shout, so we can help you build a better workplace through positive humor for small business success!

Unlock Your Business Superpowers! – Socratic Dialogue and High-Performance Coaching for Greater Success

High-performance coaching involves supporting individuals, business owners, and their team, so they are able to achieve high powered results. Socratic dialogue, a back-and-forth questioning process and a tool in the EA Lewis & Associates toolbox, is highly effective for high performance coaching due to its emphasis on critical thinking, reflection, and self-awareness.

If you want high powered results to grow your business more efficiently and more effectively, whether by defining your USP, creating a new service offering, or getting your team members to lean in, Socratic dialogue can help. Here’s how it works:

  1. Self-awareness: High performance requires a deep understanding of oneself, one’s strengths, weaknesses, motivations, and personal roadblocks. Socratic dialogue, with its emphasis on introspective questioning, can facilitate this self-understanding. A coach will help you answer questions about your own beliefs, actions, and motivations and help you discover insights about yourself that you may not have been aware of.
  2. Critical Thinking: High performance is often about solving complex problems, and this requires strong critical thinking skills. Through Socratic dialogue, a coach can guide you to challenge your own assumptions and consider different perspectives, fostering your ability to think critically and solve problems effectively.
  3. Goal Setting and Achievement: Socratic dialogue can be used to support setting and achieving your goals. By questioning you about your goals, why you want to achieve them, and how you plan to do so, a coach can help you develop a clear and achievable action plan.
  4. Breaking Through Barriers: Often, what stands in the way of high performance are mental roadblocks, such as limiting beliefs or fears. Socratic dialogue can be used to uncover these barriers and challenge them. For example, if you believe that you are not capable of achieving a certain goal, your coach might use Socratic questioning to challenge this belief and help you see that you are indeed capable.
  5. Continuous Improvement: High performance requires continuous improvement, and Socratic dialogue fosters a mindset of continual learning. By repeatedly questioning and reflecting on one’s actions and beliefs over time, one can consistently identify areas for improvement and take action to develop in these areas.

Ready to unlock your true potential and take your business to the next level? EA Lewis & Associates is here to help you do just that. Click HERE to set up a free chat with one of our high-performance coaches who will help you figure out how to excel in what you love doing! Just tell us what you love, what you want to do, and we will match you with a coach to get started!

Work from Home & the Long Game

As the economy opens back up, many people will be finding working from home as part of the new norm. Some business owners and employees want it, some not so much. Wherever you stand, if you have not settled into the WFH format yet, here are a few tips to get you there.:

Think Habits – Our habits determine our success. Do the right things, do them consistently.

Establish Routines – Get into a rhythm and stay there as best you can. Map out your days and your ideal calendar to help you stay on task and avoid distractions. If the first Monday of the month from 8:00 – 12:00 works best for admin work, make it so every month.

Be Professional – Some people can be productive in their jammies. If that is you, awesome. If you need to shower, shave, and put on a suit, do that. If you need to do a Zoom meeting, be sure to follow the prescribed dress code!

Find Your Space – If you do not have a separate home office space with a door, do your best to create a space that will work for you. Find a corner of the family room or basement, set-up a desk, put a calendar on the wall, and whatever else you need to say, “This is my work space and don’t bother me when I am here.” Train family to respect the work schedule and workspace as best as possible.

Self-Care – Be careful this does not get lost in the confusion of being at home vs being at work. Take care of yourself first so that you can take care of everything else.

• Take frequent breaks – get up and walk around, get a drink of water, etc.
• Disconnect when you need to especially from the social media blitz.
• Remember, me time is allowed and necessary.

Finally, WFH is likely to be a large part of the new norm. We were trending that way before Covid-19 and we are definitely there now. So, plan for the long term to WFH and remember a key element to a successful work from home effort is communication. When people are at a distance, we can lose sight of the need for and the effectiveness of our communication so…

Include this last tip into your routine: Call first, call often!

Let me know, how do you find success with WFH?

Covid-19 Anxiety, Find Your One Thing…

Covid-19 and social distancing for the last couple of weeks has been stressing me to my limit as it probably has for you too.  Being off my routine, in lockdown mode (I know, safe at home) worrying about business stuff and family stuff and with a lot fewer warm hugs has really knocked me off my game.  Can’t sleep, stress eating, not getting out to run (worsens everything) and a low level anxiety from everywhere have been the new norm…the negativity creeps on you and before you know it, it’s hitting you hard.  Thankfully, my friend Tim Cole sent me a link to an insightful article by Mitch Albom in the Detroit Free Press which I really needed today.  Mitch writes about Knox who has an incredible story…a blessed ray of sunshine all the way from Haiti that helped Mitch find his one thing.BikeRideJoy

My one thing…this weekend, my 9 year old son finally learned to ride his bike overcoming a ton of anxiety.  He’s been putting it off for years.  There was a super stress moment and some tears but he pushed through and of course, once he got the hang of it he didn’t want to stop.  He rode about 8 miles before the day was done and he didn’t let me help in any of it except to cheer him from a distance and adjust the seat and the brakes a few times.  This win was all him!  I got a long warm hug for the assist and then he let go but came back and gave me a second long warm hug, bonus!  :)

In writing this I also realize for the umpteenth time, that we have rays of sunshine all around us all day every day.  We just have to get out of our funk and look for them.  Life’s best things are the littlest things right under our noses.

As these next days and weeks come and go, find your one thing(s), your rays of sunshine, and count your blessings.  And if you can, help someone else find theirs because we are all of us everywhere on quite the rollercoaster.  Thank you Mitch and thank you Tim!

What is your one thing?

 

Motivation

IT'S A CHOICE!
IT’S A CHOICE!

“Motivation is simple.  You eliminate those who are not motivated.”
                                                – Lou Holtz

It’s called…
Self-motivation
Real, honest, practical, necessary
Personal accountability
Tough love

What does it mean to you?

When People Miss the Mark…

Lift people up!
Lift people up!

When people miss the mark, screw up, under perform or just seem to not get it, it’s good to keep in mind:

They may be looking at a different target – My idea of “clean” is probably not the same as your idea of “clean.”

It may be the system – There may be things outside of their control that introduces variation in results, i.e. change in wind speed, different equipment, poor communication…

It could be the consequences – Very often the best employees get “stuck” doing what no one else will and their reward for doing their best is actually a punishment.

Solutions?

Start at home first – It’s our job as leaders to do everything we can to help them do the best job they can.  Make sure you are doing that and…

  • Get on the same page
  • Improve the system
  • Focus on and reward the right behaviors
  • Be a people builder!

Write it on your heart…

Stay in the moment for that is where you find
peace
productivity
prosperity
business will be good…you will be strong…life will be balanced

on your heart

the greatest good…

tis the season for good deeds and the greatest good starts at home

first within
then six degrees
to change the world

changeyourheart

A Peace of Success…

In the solitude on the trail…findpeace

“Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.” – John Wooden

Peace on the inside…brings peace on the outside

Discipline, effort, choice…to find balance, self-worth, value

Not a thing measured but a feeling…and a knowing

Recognize Your Progress

strivebuddhaprog·ress

noun

1.  a movement toward a goal or to a further or higher stage.

positive change…an attitude…a vision…a change of pace…one more mile…the next level…even the smallest of steps

with heart

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