positive change…an attitude…a vision…a change of pace…one more mile…the next level…even the smallest of steps
Topic was emotional intelligence and personal accountability…it was looking to be a tough afternoon…and it was…but we pressed on. Had good interaction, a few laughs, a few light bulbs during the exercises…it was good.
There was one that did not say much…the quiet one…but I could tell he was listening…he did the exercises, wrote while others around him laughed off theirs…he wrote carefully…kept it to himself.
Near the end, volunteers around the room shared their takeaways for self-improvement, for change…they were good…lose weight, stop smoking, be kind, help others…all good things, challenging, admirable.
I risked it…asked him to share…he looked down as he spoke…the room went quiet as he courageously admitted many faults….seeing himself being distant, angry, frustrated, impatient, the yelling and screaming, so hard to be home, so much sadness…but owning his behavior, his part in their pain…his plan to be a better man…to let go his anger, be more attentative, be more patient, respectful, bring his family to a better place…all with a deep sincerity you could feel in your heart…
Silence…I looked up…tears all around the room…they hadn’t known…then the applause…for the one.
“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”
– Norman Vincent Peale
1. Don’t Take it Too Seriously: It may be important but if it stresses you out, your performance will suffer…laugh often!
Runners: Leave your Garmin at home on occassion. :-)
2. Ask: Ask for the sale, ask for help…from the heart, for the right reasons! No one really wants to do it alone.
Runners: Run with buddies…to speed you up or slow you down.
3. Stay in the Moment: What you DO right now is all that matters…not yesterday, not tomorrow. Right now.
Runners: Run the mile you are in!
4. Be Generous: If you want something, give something first. Trust that it will come back to you. Givers gain.
Runners: High five fellow runners, congratulate the winner, volunteer.
5. Use Your Time: We all have the same amount of time available to us. You can choose to use it or not. The keyword is “USE.”
Runners: Go run!
6. Reflect: Take some time to slow down, look around, breathe. Find some quiet time. You may see something new in that mirror.
Runners: On occasion, stop and enjoy the view, the quiet, the moment.
7. Feed the Fire Within: …to live with joy and passion but make choices with your head.
Runners: Do what you love whether fast or slow, short or long, but listen to your body.
8. Find Balance: Work, family, faith, health…the tree that leans too far will fall.
Runners: Mix it up, cross train, rest!
9. Find the Positive: In winning and in losing. In Everything.
Runners: It hurts but it’s a good hurt!
10. Face your fear: That which we are most afraid of is exactly the thing we need to go after.
Runners: Sign up for that race already!
11. Choose…to be successful, to be happy, to be you…then ACT on it.
Runners: Run Steady, Run Strong!
“Do the work. Do the analysis. But feel your run. Feel your race. Feel the joy that is running.” – Kara Goucher, 2008 Olympian, Runner’s World Quote of the Day
This is how we ran as kids…less analysis but with joy
This is how we should run every day
Anything else is restricted, restrained, self-limiting
Joy is the key
Find your passion…persevere…to live your greatest journey
– Look deep
– Own it
– Live it
– Use it to look deeper
– Unleash it
In running, business, family, faith…in life
Feel the joy!
“Awareness is the birthplace of possibility. Everything you want to
do, everything you want to be, starts here. To be a successful visionary, you
must be as aware as possible. At every moment, many paths lead forward.
Awareness tells you which is the right one to take.” – Deepak Chopra
It’s key to…
– good leadership
– good followership
– your team
– your customers
– your work
– your future
– your legacy.
“Giving high-quality feedback doesn’t have to do with a skill or technique; it has to do with caring enough about people to tell it like it is.”
-Robert Hargrove, Masterful Coaching
As does the best sales technique…ask from the heart and the sale will be right.
As does the best leadership…lead from the heart and others will follow.
As does the best relationship…trust your heart to find the one.
As does the best art…
As does a good belly laugh. :-)
It’s good to look to others for support, guidance, affirmation, and praise so we know how well we are doing…that we are moving down the right path…finding our confidence…maybe saving time and energy by drawing on the success of others. Looking to others too much though can be problematic.
It takes a strong foundation to build a home, or business, or anything that we want to endure. That foundation is made of building blocks consisting of our core values, our convictions, our work ethic, our accomplishments…these blocks are strongest when they come from within.
Building blocks from others can be good and useful. However, if the support or praise that was once positive and given freely is now retracted or turns negative, we may find ourselves with a weakened foundation…less sure of our path…less confident…facing fear and doubt…and poor performance.
Look to others for support and guidance but build your foundation from within…prepare, be self-aware, define your values, walk your path…with confidence…and find your success. It may take longer. It may be harder. But it will come from within and it will be strong.